Ever notice how some moms always look like they have it together, while others look frazzled and overwhelmed?
Whether you are like me (a stay-at-home mom by choice), or you sort of fell into it, one question we all have in common is how to be a successful stay at home mom.
If you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed, or wondering if you have what it takes to be a happy and productive stay at home mom, I would like to reassure you that you’re not alone.
So if you feel like being a mom is painful and joyless,I would like to share a few tips to help you go from stressed out mom to happy and fulfilled mom.
While we all have different values and success means different things to all of us, there are a few things we can do to make our lives easier and more satisfying.
And that’s exactly what I’m going to show you in this blog post.
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HOW TO BE A SUCCESSFUL STAY AT HOME MOM
1. BE RESILIENT
Let’s be honest. Being a stay at home mom is hard.
And one of the biggest reasons many stay at home moms struggle is because they have no idea what to do to succeed or thrive.
Many moms find it hard to adjust to their new role because it’s difficult to transition from being a working mom to staying home full time with your kids.
What does it mean to be resilient?
It means not giving up but finding a way to make things work.
When you’re resilient, you don’t see yourself as a victim or someone who doesn’t have a choice.
You don’t allow challenges overwhelm you because you can always find a way to weather the storm.
As a stay at home mom, you’re faced with lots of challenges every day, how you handle them depend on your mindset and attitude.
When you see challenges as an opportunity to grow, it becomes easier to deal with them.
So instead of feeling sorry for yourself and thinking everything is against you, take a step back and think of what you can do to make things run smoothly.
Let me break this down.
Let’s say one of your biggest challenges is keeping your home clean and organized.
You have two options. One, you can decide it’s impossible to keep your home clean with kids around, or you can figure out a way to clean and organize your home.
While we can’t always control the things that happen to us, we can control how we react to circumstances and cultivate habits that will help us to be successful.
Remember that you have a choice as to how you choose to live your life and what kind of stay at home mom you want to be.
Do you want to be a happy stay-at-home mom or a stressed, unhappy and overwhelmed mom?
When you decide that your life is your responsibility, only then can you begin to do what’s necessary to succeed despite your less-than-ideal circumstances.
So if you want to be a successful stay at home mom, figure out what isn’t working in your home and life, and create a plan to make the necessary changes.
2. GET SOCIAL AND BUILD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
One of the most common challenges stay at home moms face is loneliness.
Many moms feel isolated because they spend so much time at home with their kids and don’t make time to go outside and socialize with other people.
Staying at home alone with kids (especially babies and toddlers) day after day can make you feel isolated.
The only way around it is to be proactive and intentional about meeting and interacting with other women (especially other moms).
If your goal is to be a successful stay at home mom, you have to surround yourself with positive and supportive people.
Your companions should be people who are growing and making progress in their lives.
Build relationships with people that will challenge you to stretch your limits, and aim for bigger goals.
I know sometimes you may feel down when things are not going smoothly or you’re exhausted.
It’s very easy to have pity parties and there’s no shortage of people who will help you feed those negative emotions.
At the end of the day, those types of relationships won’t serve any useful purpose or help you to become a better mom.
That’s why you should only invest your time and energy in relationships that build you up.
I am a bit of an introvert and I like being alone. But that isn’t always very healthy.
So if you’re like me and you need some tips to help you build healthy relationships, here are some things that have worked for me.
HOW TO BUILD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
- Be willing to put yourself out there even if you fear rejection.
- Be open to meeting new people. Join a women’s group in your church,your neighborhood or join a meetup in your area.
- Learn or improve your people and communication skills. If you need help, I recommend How To Win Friends And Influence People.
- Be generous with your time.
- Don’t force the issue. Let things flow and develop naturally.
- Create boundaries in your relationships. If you struggle with this I recommend Boundaries. This book by Doctors Cloud and Townsend is one of the best books on the subject.
I know it is scary to put yourself out there but building good relationships is important if you want to enjoy being a stay at home mom.
You need friends and people you can trust especially in emergencies.
If you want to be a happy stay at home mom, start working on building good and healthy relationships.
3. HAVE A POSITIVE MINDSET AND ATTITUDE
Being a stay at home mom is probably one of the hardest jobs in the world.
What makes it so hard is that you’re constantly on call. You can go days or weeks without resting or getting a break.
The fact that you have to wear so many hats means you are constantly being pulled in many different directions.
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and a bit negative about all the things you have to do, and all the sacrifices you have to make, but I find that doesn’t help me a lot.
Instead I focus on the positives and try to have the right mindset and attitude about this stage of life.
If you’re going through a tough time right now or you have fallen into a rut, find some ways to motivate and inspire yourself so you can regain the spark and joys of motherhood.
INSPIRATION FOR STAY AT HOME MOMS
Here are some tips to help you stay positive and thrive as a stay at home mom:
- Think about the end result. As a full time mom, you’re helping to shape your kids lives. You’re doing something that is very valuable so it’s a good idea to enjoy and cherish the experience.
- Be proud of your role as a homemaker. You’re not inferior to other moms who work outside the home. There’s no need to feel ashamed or inadequate.
- Read inspirational and motivational books or blogs on homemaking, parenting and being a mom. There are lots of good resources out there, you just need to find the ones that resonate with you.
- Don’t make it all about you. When I first became a stay at home mom. I really struggled because I focused a lot on the sacrifices I had to make instead of looking at the big picture.
When you make it all about you, you will struggle to see the benefits of being a stay at home mom.
And there are loads of benefits.
Like being the biggest influence in your kids lives, not missing their important milestones, being available in case of emergencies and so much more.
If you’re a Christian mommy (especially a new stay at home mom) in need of encouragement and inspiration, I really recommend this Bible Study: Ancient Paths for Modern Women: Walking as Mothers and Homemakers.
4. DEVELOP SUCCESS HABITS
Your daily or weekly habits is one of the most important factors that will allow you to become a productive homemaker.
How do you spend your days? What do you spend most of your time doing?
If you want to be a happy and productive stay at home mom, you have to adopt habits that will help you to achieve your goals.
Here are some examples of habits you can develop:
HABITS OF SUCCESSFUL STAY AT HOME MOMS
- Create routines and schedules. Have a morning and evening routine to save time and stress. Create a cleaning schedule and schedules for some other tasks/chores.
- Simplify and organize your life. Declutter your home. Get rid of excess stuff especially stuff you don’t use or need. Streamline your activities. Become an organized stay at home mom.
- Set goals and create a plan to achieve them. Make a list of the things you need to do,how to do them and when you need to do them.
- Become more intentional with your time. Evaluate how you spend your time and what you spend your time on. Are you a good steward of your time?
- Nurture your emotional and physical health. Seek help for any medical or health issues. You can’t enjoy being a stay at home mom if you are plagued with medical or emotional issues that are not controlled or managed.
- You need self-care. Participate in activities you enjoy. Find one or two hobbies. Get social. Find free recreational activities to relax and refresh your mind. Find ways to stay motivated and recharge your batteries from the daily grind.
While there are so many habits you could develop as a mom, the ones above have made a big difference in my life.
It’s possible to learn new and better habits with some dedication and discipline.
Focus on one thing/habit at a time.
You can start to make changes today, and you’ll see results quickly if you continue with the practice.
It can be something as simple as cleaning up every night before you go to bed, or loading the dishwasher.
If you want to be a successful stay at home mom, change those habits that are stopping you from enjoying being a homemaker,and adopt new habits for success.
If any of these things is holding you back or stopping you from enjoying motherhood, keep in mind that a lot of other stay at home moms face their own challenges.
A lot of moms like you struggle with fear, negativity, loneliness, time management and confidence.
They’ve just learned to keep pushing on, taking action and believing that everything is going to turn out right.
Being a stay at home mom takes courage.
Instead of telling yourself what you can’t do or feeling inadequate, let your faith guide you.
You can be a successful stay at home mom because many moms have gone through the same struggles and come out on the right side.
You gotta believe that.
Are you happy being a stay at home mom? Why or why not?